Ruth 1:1-18; Hope; Delivered November 4, 2018

Today we are going to look at hope.  We do that because I needed to study, meditate on it this week. I am guessing you need to hear a word of it. So hope it is. 

The poet Emily Dickenson calls hope “The thing with feathers.”  Hope flutters above us, when we are in despair. When we hear cynicism from our country’s leaders; when we are privy to their angry insults; when blame is doeled out as glibly as Halloween candy; when we read about pipe bombings, a racist inspired shooting tragedy in Kentucky, and that other horrendous shooting at that synagogue in Pittsburgh, hope is still with us.  Pause long enough in our broodings, we can just make out hope’s tail feathers, above us, headed toward the future.  Hope is that thing with feathers.  It perches on the window sills of hospital waiting rooms.  It glides over hospital beds. it dares to enter even solemn operating rooms.  It hovers at nurses’ stations.   

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Revelations 21:1-6a; Community; Delivered All Saints Sunday, October 28, 2018

As you know if you were here last Sunday, or if you keep up with the happenings here in town, Howard Shifflett died two weeks ago. Some of you may have known him well. If so, my condolences, our condolences.  I myself though, only met Howard for the first time when he came to our church one Sunday.  He interrupted our church service, remember?  He had just learned of his granddaughter’s horrifically violent death.  He was in a state. He asked the church to pray for her and the family. We did.  Of course, we prayed for Howard, too. 

After that, I would occasionally see Howard around town.  When I passed him on the sidewalk, he was friendly. Every time, he reminded me that his own grandmother had been a pastor.  I’m not sure why he said that—maybe he was giving me his Howard Shifflett seal of approval?  Maybe he was trying to assure me of his own Christian roots?  Maybe, though, he was just trying to make small talk. Our hurried conversations were awkward. I certainly didn’t think it appropriate to bring up his granddaughter’s death.  What do you say? As it was, there was this unspoken sadness between us.  Because of course, I felt sorry for his loss.    

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Mark 10:35-45; Testimonies!; Delivered October 21, 2018

As you may already know, Katie McKown is the pastor at Scottsville Baptist.  We were at Baines last year discussing plans for our ecumenical Lenten services.  Katie said this: “I think this year we should make time in our services for personal testimonies.” Sound good?  Maybe you have no experience with testimonies—I don’t either really, although my guess is, a little more than you do.  A woman at one of the previous churches I served, yes, a Presbyterian Church, DID offer one, one Sunday.  Ignored the order of worship in the bulletin and everything!  Yep!  Some of the church members felt it was highly inappropriate. You know, exposing all those personal emotions. Disrupting a well-organized, carefully planned, church service!

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Mark 10:17-31; What's so bad about being rich? Delivered October 14, 2018

Whenever I read this story, I think of my days as an Associate Pastor with primary responsibility for youth.  I worked with a delightful group of high school kids.  As part of that effort, I created and ran a youth drama group.  Lots of fun! Some of the dramas we presented in worship—others we performed in the evening.  For those evening events, we sold tickets—the money we raised funded our Habitat for Humanity youth mission trips. 

Some of the youth had surprising talent.  One family, I’ll call them the Smiths—my goodness!  They were a wonder!  James was the older of the three in our group. Even in high school I had a lot of respect for that boy and not just for his talents- but more about that later. 

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Mark 10:2-26; The Ugliness of Divorce; Delivered October 7, 2018

I decided it was time to move back into the lectionary after a summer’s vacation away from it.  This past summer we studied texts that I have found especially compelling or bothersome. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to do that.  It is the reason I entered ministry—not the only reason, but one of them-to really dig down and study a text. Especially the scripture reading, “The kingdom of God is within you or among you,” will continue to have great relevance for me as I move forward in my personal journey of faith. 

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Matthew 7:7-11; Prayer; Delivered September 30, 2018

I work out at a gym.  That gym has a bin for discarded books.  I stick my nose in that bin every time I’m there. Occasionally I find, and when I do I always retrieve, discarded Bibles.  Can you believe people drop their BIBLES into a discarded book bin?  Don’t you think there should be a sacred burial ground or something for discarded Bibles?  At this point I have given away more retrieved Bibles than I have kept— I have given several to boys at the Discovery School, and one to a woman who came to the church a few times—a hurting soul, needing a space to reflect on her life for a few Sundays.  So, just so you know, I myself am doing my part to put Bibles to good use! 

One of the Bibles I rescued from that bin, is titled “The Life Recovery Bible.”  It is for recovering alcoholics.  I kept that one. No, I am not an alcoholic, thank goodness, but I so appreciate the footnotes that accompany that particular Bible’s text.  So for instance, this past week, after reading our scripture for today, my eyes dropped down to the footnotes.  This is what I read: “…We will persist in prayer and realistic hopes once we fully appreciate the kind of father who hears our prayers.  Many of us in recovery have suffered because of …abusive parents who gave us stones and snakes. ….we must …rethink our concept of God as a father who gives good gifts to his children…”

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Exodus 26:31-35; Mark 15:33-39; The Veil of the temple was torn in two...Delivered September 23, 2018

As you know, I have been working on the event coming up on October 14,  Seven pm here at the church  It features my friend and fellow colleague, David Garth. 

In fact, it has been so much on my mind, that I have decided to preach about it today.   

If you were here six weeks ago, you know that I preached on racism and David Garth’s talk then, too.  Please don’t think I am one of those preachers who gets stuck on a topic and then drones on and on about that one topic week after blessed week. I didn’t become a preacher remember, until my early 40’s.   I have been on your side of the pulpit for long enough.  I know what I personally like and don’t like. I don’t like single topic preaching. I also don’t like tongue lashings.  At the church I grew up in, the pastor gave regular tongue lashings from up here.  Nice man, but when he preached he made you feel so small and sinful, that you dropped to your knees, and then to all fours and crawled out of worship.

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Luke 17:20-37; The Kingdom of God, Delivered Sept. 16, 2018

If you have been here the past month of Sundays, and then some, you might have realized that we have strayed from the lectionary.  That is because I decided to give me and you both a break from the lectionary cycle.  Lately I have been preaching from scripture readings that either speak to current days’ events, or readings that have been particularly bothersome or compelling to me personally.  So for instance, not too long ago, I preached on the scripture passage “Be perfect, just as your father in heaven is perfect.”  Remember that one?  What a difficult text to fathom!

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Matthew 6:25-34; Blessed by God; Delivered on Sunday, Sept. 9

True story:  A Presbyterian Pastor who had been assigned to a new church development, was supposed to send in quarterly reports to his Presbytery’s New Church Development Oversight Committee.  The report was to include information on financial and congregation growth.  There was also a section relating to the pastor’s mental health.  How was he sleeping? Was he depressed?  Was he feeling overworked?  One other section related to liturgical practices in his church.  Was the church abiding by the guidelines set forth in the Book of Common Worship? 

The pastor completed the report, religiously, shall we say, for a couple of years running.   He had a suspicion, though that the Oversight Committee was only interested in financial and church growth. So to test his suspicions, our pastor got creative.  One quarter, in the mental health section of the report, he complained that he was spending a lot of time in a dark room staring at walls.  He couldn’t get out of bed in the morning.  He burst into tears for no reason.  Yes, he was feeling depressed. 

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Do Not Judge; Luke 6:37-38; Delivered September 2, 2018

I  thought I would start off today talking with you some about my daughter’s wedding in Brunello, Italy, and the church Joy and Claudio were married in—second time around.  Just so you know, she and Claudio were married in Baltimore, they live in Bethesda, so they were married in Baltimore on June 30th.  Claudio’s folks flew in from Italy to be there, of course, along with Claudio’s brother, Marco, a few cousins, aunts and uncles.  But a lot of Claudio’s friends and extended family, just couldn’t make the trip.  So, it made sense to have a second wedding—in the small town that Claudio grew up in and where his brother and parents still live. This second wedding was presided over by the only priest Claudio has ever known, Don Giamo.

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Mark 1:1-8; Slavery; Delivered July 29, 2018

I’m still mulling over some conversations I have had in the last few weeks.  I thought I would share them with you and then maybe together we can try to make some sense out of them.  If you are looking for a neatly sewed up end to this sermon, I am warning you up front, you are going to be disappointed.

The first conversation I want to tell you about, was with Matt Lawless.  He’s the new town administrator.  He’s an alum of the College of William and Mary, my own Alma Mater and my daughter Joy’s Alma Mater, too.  Right there we had something in common to talk about.  During our conversation, which happened in the town office, you know, situated over Victory Hall, I mentioned Scottsville Presbyterian. In fact, I didn’t just mention our church, I bragged about it.    I told him how the exterior is an historic, gleaming jewel, in this town—now that we have the fresh paint job, and the window-pane replacements. 

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John 13:31-35; Agape Love; Delivered July 22, 2-18

As I said last week, from this pulpit, I have been astounded by the love you have demonstrated for Arlene. I’ll say more than astounded by your love and concern, though.  I’ll say proud.  This week, as people crossed the threshold to Arlene’s hospital room, a virtual army of well-wishers, I just knew Arlene’s doctors and nurses must have been thinking, “Who IS this woman? Surely she must be a very important person to get so much attention.”  And she IS a VIP—to those who know and love her.   And of course, so many people extending their love to Arlene with visits and phone calls—they have provided healing in a way that a whole pharmacy of medicines and a whole gaggle of doctors and nurses can not.  We may have tired out Arlene with our love, but it has been a good, satisfying tired—like when you return home from a week at the beach with family, or after a dinner out with good friends.      

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Matthew 5: 43-48; O Lord it's Hard to be Humble, When you're Perfect in Every Way!; Delivered July 15, 2018

I did my internship at Bradley Hills Presbyterian Church in Bethesda, Maryland.  Enormous sanctuary.  My daughters said that on the inside, it looked like a huge brick barn.  I can’t deny that.  It DID look like the inside of a huge brick barn, in a sleek, contemporary sort of way.  The pews weren’t so much that, but benches-with-backs.  There was very little else in that space in the way of furniture or Christian symbolism.  Really, the only give-aways that it was a church sanctuary, was the smallish baptismal font and a ginormous wooden cross which hung from the ceiling.   

One of the really novel things about Bradley Hills, besides it’s architecture and it’s interior design, is that it shares space with Bethesda Jewish Congregation.  On Friday afternoons, the Jewish contingency would take over the sanctuary to prepare for its Friday night worship.  There was a switch on the sanctuary wall.  Someone would flip that switch and behold!  A cloth rendition of a Torah would descend from the ceiling, and sheath the cross.  Cool, huh? Then, Sunday morning, the church custodian would flip that same switch. The Torah would ascend, and behold the cross!

The two congregations would hold joint services several times a year, too.  These were a testament to the close relationship between the two congregations, but also, I think, a recognition of the close relationship between two different faith traditions—Judaism and Christianity. 

And now I would like to introduce you to one particular member of Bradley Hills Presbyterian.  Her name is Elizabeth.  The year I worked there, she was assigned to look after me.  She introduced me to church members, gave me some background into that church’s programs—that kind of thing. 

Elizabeth was a great help, however Elizabeth was one nervous Nellie.  Her introduction said it all: “Hi, my name is Elizabeth.  I am a recovering perfectionist.”  And she was that, although it didn’t seem to me her recovery was going all that well.  In conversations, she would often stop mid-sentence, to correct herself.  I can’t know for sure, but I think she did that because she was in constant self-analysis mode.  She was wanting to perfect her every spoken word. She was extremely cautious in what she said on any given topic--religion, politics, child rearing, the weather, even.  It was as if she walked through life on tentative tiptoe.  So for instance, she might say, “It’s such a beautiful sunny day.  No, no, well, there are a few clouds in the sky, and forecasters ARE calling for rain, so maybe it’s not THAT beautiful a day….” Our conversations confused and exhausted me.

To be perfect.  That is what Elizabeth was trying NOT to be, but Jesus says we are to BE perfect, just like our heavenly father is perfect.  How can that be?  You know and I know that perfection is an impossible goal to achieve. You might be this close to achieving it, but there is always some itsy-bitsy thing you could do better.  And even if it were possible to reach perfection, where would that get you?    Wouldn’t you just spend your days trying to hold on to that perfect state?  And wouldn’t you still just end up like nervous Nellie Elizabeth?  And, think about this, would anyone actually LIKE you if you WERE perfect?  Honestly, would YOU ever want to be married to a perfect person?  Would YOU really want to be best friends with a perfect person? It’s our imperfections that make us endearing.  It’s our imperfections that make our friends and loved ones endearing to us..   

Why, then, would Jesus say, “Be perfect, just as your heavenly father is perfect?”  That is exactly what some of you asked each other in a Bible study several months ago—and if you recall, I didn’t say a word.  I just listened. I filed that question away up here.  I promised myself that I would preach on perfection some Sunday during the summer.  And this is that Sunday! 

So, here we go.  This is what I know.  The New Testament including the gospel of Matthew was written in ancient Greek.  The Greek word for perfect is teleos.  Teleos is the root of our English word, teleological. According to Webster’s dictionary, teleological, is “a doctrine explaining phenomena by final causes,” which is more than any of us will ever need to know.  Teleos, though?  Well, in Greek, it just means end goal, as in an acorn’s teleos is to become an oak tree. Other English equivalents might be fulfillment and of course, that stumbling block, for us, perfection.

Although WE might not want to pursue perfection, the Ancient Greeks loved, loved, loved the concept.  You might even say that they invented it. Think about the great thinkers of that time—Pythagorus, Plato, are two that come immediately to mind.  With no concept of perfection, would they have worked so hard to achieve all that they did?  And really, aren’t our sciences, as created and promoted by those ancient Greeks--math, astronomy-- aren’t they all about perfection?  So definitely there is a place for perfection in our thinking.  But maybe perfection is best left to scientists in their laboratories.  Maybe it is best not to apply perfection to our relationships, and, in the way we comport ourselves in our day-to-day living.   

I said that the ancient Greeks might have invented perfection. I wasn’t kidding. As you may know by now, my favorite theologian, who died, sadly, in 2012, is Walter Wink.  What a fine scholar he was!  I went to a week-long Walter Wink-lead-conference when I lived in the DC area.  We actually talked about this passage in Matthew, “Be Perfect just as your father in heaven is perfect.”     

So, I introduced you to Elizabeth earlier in this sermon, now I will introduce you to Walter Wink.  He was from Texas, so he had a Texas drawl. For our conference breakouts, we sat in a large circle, and Walter sat among us—his chair on two legs, so that he could rock back in forth.  It was like he was sitting on his front porch rocker, “back home” on the ranch, just chewing the fat with his circle of friends.  He himself used a Greek translation of the Bible.  He read that as easily as we might read English. He had an excellent command of Hebrew, too, and probably other ancient languages, but I don’t know that for sure. Anyway, he would read to us from his Greek Bible and then we would discuss the passage together.  

What I liked about Walter Wink is that he was one of us.  He struggled with the same stuff we struggle with.  Like us, when he was just beginning his career as a religious professor, he was flummoxed by “Be perfect, just as your father in heaven is perfect.” 

Here is what he knew.   Aramaic was Jesus’ first language.  He  could also read Hebrew, a close cousin of Aramaic.  Jesus might have known Greek, enough to speak it anyway, but we don’t know that for sure.  We DO know that when he spoke with his fellow Judeans, and when we taught,  he spoke in Aramaic. 

You following me here?  Jesus communicated and taught in Aramaic.  Now comes the kicker.  You ready for this?  Jesus could not have said “Be perfect, just as your father in heaven is perfect,” for the simple reason that the word perfect did not exist in the Aramaic language.  Let me say that again, the word perfect, did not exist in the Aramaic language. 

Now think about this—something that is sure to give you a headache:  If the word perfect did not exist in Aramaic, did the concept of perfection exist in Jesus’ Jewish world?  

It’s like the tree falling in the forest, isn’t it?   If no one is around to hear it fall, did it actually make a sound? And, if the concept of perfection did NOT exist in Jewish culture, what would life have been like? You could do well at your studies, but you could never be a perfect, A+ student.  Say you were a potter.  You could produce a good piece of pottery, say, but never a perfect piece of pottery.  Would that matter to you? For me, anyway, a weight is lifted. How freeing that would be!

But here’s another question for you:  if Jesus never said, could not have said, “Be perfect just as your father in heaven is perfect,” what did he say that was later mistranslated and written down by those ancient Greeks?”

Glad you asked!  The gospel of Luke has a lot of the same passages as in Matthew—almost word for word, in some places.  In our scripture passage for today, in Matthew, Jesus talks about loving our enemies.  He ends his teaching with “be perfect, just as your heavenly father is perfect,” In Luke, the sixth chapter, Jesus instructs his listeners to “love your enemies,” just like in Matthew.  In Luke, though, Jesus continues with, “Be merciful, just as your father in heaven is merciful.”

Be merciful.  That makes more sense than “be perfect,” in the context in which it is used, right?   Love your enemies, AND consequently be merciful to them.  Should you come face to face with your enemy with your sword drawn, remember, God has told you to love that enemy.  Maybe don’t run him through with your sword.     

Being merciful—well that is almost as impossible a goal to achieve as being perfect, isn’t it?  What am I saying?  It is every bit as impossible to achieve as being perfect!  We have this side of our nature, an ugly side—We want to get even, take revenge. We want to blame and punish the other--for their life circumstances, being poor, being born in the wrong country, having the wrong religion. Yet, our teleos, says Jesus, is to love the other.  The proof of that love will be the mercy we practice. Be merciful just as your father in heaven is merciful.   

So, in our time together, we’ve talked about the close connection between Judaism and Christianity—remember the descending and ascending Torah?   And we’ve talked some about the ancient Jewish worldview, which perhaps did not include a concept of perfection.  In light of what I have shared with you, maybe you’ve decided as I have decided, that the ancient Jews were on to something.  Maybe, like me, you’ve decided NOT to strive for perfection  in your relationships; in your day-to-day living. 

Like Nervous Nellie Elizabeth, let us become recovering perfectionists.  Let us strive instead to be merciful, but NOT perfectly merciful.   Amen


John 5:1-9; Healing; Delivered July 8, 2018

In just a minute, I am going to read you the story of Jesus performing a healing at the Bethesda pool.  Rather than reading along with me, or just listening, I want you to do something else.  As I read, with your eyes closed, I want you to imagine that you yourself are at the Bethesda pool in Jerusalem.   You are there to be healed by the waters.   You’ll want to have a disease or disability of some kind.  Let’s say your right side is paralyzed.  Let your right arm go limp.  Let your right leg go limp. You are not in pain, but you can’t move much. You can’t perform day-to-day chores—like washing clothes or dishes.  You drag your leg when you walk. That is why you yourself are at the Bethesda pool.  You are lying under a portico. The sun’s rays are blocked, but it’s hot as an oven.  You are desperate for healing, though.  You watch and wait for the pool’s water to stir.  When it does, it means that angels are present and a miracle can happen.  Your plan is that when you see the moving water, you will crawl to the water and using your left hand and arm as a lever, you will throw yourself in. 

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Jonah 3:6-10; Matthew 7:1-5; The Log in my Eye; Delivered June 17, 2018

I know a fellow pastor who swears that nothing happens by coincidence.   I’m not THAT much of a purist.  Although God does work wonders and is very much a part of our lives, I think that there is room for a coincidence now and then.  HOWEVER, I will say that this week, what happened to me was more than coincidence.   

And to think it happened at a Presbytery meeting!  Yes, apparently God even attends Presbytery meetings. I am going to tell you what happened, but everything right now is still kind of a jumble for me, so you will have to bear with me if the pieces of this jigsaw saga do not fit snuggly together. I am still processing.   

To begin, I would like us to put ourselves at that Presbytery meeting. We are at Westminster/Cantebury, a retirement community in Richmond.  We are sitting in a large meeting room.  Two lecterns flank the center stage.  There are also several chairs on stage, and a table on which stands a large brass, Celtic cross.  After a time of worship, and after hearing reports from various committees, two women, one black the other white, climb the stairs to the stage.  They situate two of the chairs next to each other, center stage, and they sit down.  So begins their mini-drama, which is really a conversation. Here is the gist of the conversation: 

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Genesis 3:8-19; Educated; Delivered June 10, 2018

On the front cover of your bulletin today is a picture of a decorated Akkadian cylinder seal.  Say that three times fast!  An Akkadian cylinder seal is just what you might think—it is a cylinder. It comes from Akkad, a city in the ancient Babylonian Empire.  This Akkadian cylinder seal is small.  It has a hole in the middle so that you can run a string through and wear it as an amulet around your neck or wrist.  Since this and other similar cylinder seals are in relief, it is thought that the Akkadians may have also used them to make imprints—hence the name seal—They dipped the cylinder in ink and rolled it on something flat, parchment maybe—or if not ink, maybe they rolled it on soft clay--creating a reverse image.   

We don’t know if that is what they did, though.   We only have the cylinders.  The one you are looking at dates from the 22nd century, BCE.  That makes it around 4200 years old.  Isn’t that something? 

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Wrestling with God; Genesis 32:22-31; Delivered June 3, 2018

 I have read that it takes 10 years to learn most crafts. That’s about right in the case of preaching.  There may be some child prodigies out there--gifted souls, for whom it comes more easily, but most preachers have to put in their time and practice, practice, practice.  

When I was new to ministry, and I had a preaching assignment, I asked our church secretary to read my draft.  Bless her soul, she was happy to do that.  Faye, her name is Faye, had a keen sense of what works.  By the time she became my go-to-source for sermon editing, she had been the church secretary for 15 years.  The head pastor wrote all his sermon-drafts long-hand on yellow legal pads.  She transcribed them.  That meant she had read a lot of sermons— a lot of GOOD sermons, actually.  Our head pastor was an able preacher.  

Faye was always gentle with me. That was the other reason she was my go-to person, for editing. So for example, one time she handed back a sermon and said:   This is great, Gay Lee,,but you’ve put what should be your ending paragraph at the beginning of your sermon.” She was right.  I had given away the punch line in the very first paragraph. 

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Spiritual not Religious; John 3:1-17; Delivered May 27, 2018

I went back and forth this week, with whether to admit this to you.  Then I remembered that Randy Haycock, admitted this to you last year, so I guess I can join his club.  I hereby confess that like Randy, when I first came to the Central Virginia area, not knowing a soul in this area, I decided to try my luck with  Well, actually, it is more complicated than that.  One of my daughters, Paige, signed me up for, but I played along, so I am partly responsible.   I read from at least one religious leader that is the devil’s plaything.  I hope that you don’t think that I was engaging in immorality.  I simply wanted to get to know people outside the church, and, if I’m honest, I also wanted to see if I might still be attractive to people of the opposite sex, old girl that I am.   I’m not fishing for compliments, mind you, but if, after the service, you want to tell me how very young and attractive I am, I can tell you, I promise to be all ears! 

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Pentecost: Acts 2:1-15; Delivered May 20, 2018

Dale Matthews.   He’s a doctor, probably retired now, but I’m not sure about that.  He lived in McLean, where I used to live. Maybe he still DOES live in McLean, with his wife, Karen.   His daughter was good friends with my daughter, and so we were acquaintances.  I found out during our usually harried discussions, either dropping off or picking up our girls after playdates, that Dale had written a book.  That’s cool in itself.  But the topic of his book was especially interesting to me.  It was about faith.  I bought the book, read it.  It was surprisingly good!  It was about this believing doctor’s take on faith as a prescription for healing— If you’re interested, I found out this week, it’s still in print.  The book is titled, The Faith Factor:  Proof of the Healing Power of Prayer. 

I thought the church I served would enjoy hearing from him. I invited him to speak, at an after-worship get-together. Dale graciously accepted my invitation.

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Luke 2:41-51; Mother Mary, Delivered May 13, 2018

I love this story, that’s because it’s a very human story.  If you are a parent, then you have, at some point, lost a child at the grocery maybe—or in a parking lot.  Maybe even at a church.   You can identify. 

My own lost-child story happened many moons ago, when my girls were small—two, four and six.  It was Fall.  I had bought each of the girls a little rake, and with those they were helping me rake leaves.  We had a big oak tree out front of our house.  Leaf raking was fun!   We were raking the leaves into a big pile at the street-curb. The town had these big leaf-sucker trucks—that’s their technical name.  Leaf-sucker trucks.  Those trucks would suck up what we raked up.

I promised the girls that after we had a decent leaf pile, I would swing them around and then throw them in. That is what we were up to on that glorious fall day.  We were busy, raking and giggling, and having fun.

But things were about to go seriously south.  It must have been around five in the afternoon.  It was time to put the dinner casserole in the oven.  I put down my rake and yelled to my oldest daughter Emily, who I am sad to report, too often served as Mommy’s little helper—I yelled, “Emily, watch Paige for a minute, I’m going into the house to start dinner.”  It was a short distance from front door to kitchen.  I had just stepped into that kitchen, with Emily following behind.  “Mom, Paige is running down the sidewalk toward the end of the street.” 

Back outside I looked down the street where Emily was pointing.  That’s where the sidewalk ended at a street intersection.  No Paige.  No Paige anywhere.  I hadn’t been gone long enough for her to just disappear like that.  It made no sense.  How could she just be gone?  

So I do what you do.  I start screaming, “Paige!” as I run down the sidewalk toward the end of the street.  Once I arrive I look in both directions.  Still no Paige.  I run back up toward our house.  What to do?  By this time, a couple of neighbors have heard my frantic calls.  They come out of their houses to help me look, but look where?

I waste no time.  I phone the police.  “Description please?”  “Oh, my goodness!  A description?”  In my mind I can see Paige’s body flat out on the street, hit by a car—she’s still dressed in her navy blue jumper with the little yellow bumble bee appliqué sewn onto the bottom skirt part.  Red tights.  Red Turtle neck sweater. Blue tennis shoes. Oh heavens, no!”

My mind is a jumble, but then a smidge of sanity kicks in.  Paige is obsessed with a little girl—eight-year-old Katherine, who lives in a house toward that intersection.  Had Paige run to Katherine’s house?  With the police on their way, neighbors standing around in their yards, and a kindly soul watching after the other two girls, I run down the sidewalk again, this time stopping at Katherine’s house.  Katherine’s mom’s car is not in the driveway, but I ring the doorbell anyway.  No answer.

 Just as I am turning to leave, Katherine’s mom, Karen, does indeed drive up.  She is back from wherever it is she had been.  I explain what’s up.  “I thought maybe she had come to see Katherine?”  Karen unlocks the front door.  We step inside.  “Maybe Paige has wandered into your backyard?”  I suggest hopefully.   As we walk through the house toward the backdoor and the backyard, get this--Paige peeks out from behind Karen’s living room drapes and shouts, “Boo.”  Like this had all been a fun game of hide and seek.  

Happy day!   Of course, I swoop Paige up in a firm embrace and probably cried, although I don’t remember if there were tears.

 Best I have been able to figure, when I went into the house to tend to the casserole, Paige saw her opportunity.  She ran down the sidewalk toward her beloved Katherine’s FENCED-IN backyard.  She opened the gate, which for the sake of argument we will assume was slightly ajar.  Finding no Katherine there, she let herself into the house via the backdoor.  Karen had left the backdoor closed but unlocked.  Paige must have stretched on tippy toe, turned that back door’s doorknob, and let herself in. 

Karen, Paige and I return to the sidewalk where we are greeted by Emily, Joy a few neighbors and a kindly police officer.  I explain to the officer that the toddler in my arms is indeed, the lost child.  And, that’s the end of my own personal lost child saga.

All to say, like many of you I am sure, I identify with Mary in today’s story.   Ok.  I know Jesus was twelve, not two, but I don’t care what age a son or daughter is, he or she is still your child.    Jesus was alone in Jerusalem, which I imagine, was NOT a so very holy city.  I mean it may have been the seat of the temple, but I suspect it had its share of low lives—thieves, prostitutes, murderers even—people hoping to take advantage of unsuspecting, naïve, festival goers.

Sadly, scripture doesn’t give us a whole lot to go on regarding the boy Jesus.  I imagine him as smart beyond his years—maybe even a child prodigy. But Jesus doesn’t have street smarts. He has spent his growing up years in Nazareth, after all, a small, backwater village— That fact would have added to his parents’ worries.

His parents.  How could they have lost their son, for heaven’s sake? We can imagine, can’t we?   They were traveling with extended family members. In all the commotion of packing up, and grabbing a quick bite to eat before heading out of Jerusalem, they had skipped the head count.  You know the head count.  “Ok, do we have everyone? José, Miriam, Joshua, Nathan, Judith, Jesus?”  They hadn’t done that. 

 Their mistake.  It wasn’t all on them, though. Jesus was partly to blame, don’t you think?  In the commotion of that morning, Jesus had seen an opportunity—an opportunity to talk with the learned men at temple.  “I’ll just slip out--won’t be gone long.  Be back before we leave for home.”  But then, of course, the time got away from him. 

He’s sitting with the elders, asking questions, debating—at some point, he looks past them to the door of the temple.  Jesus sees that it is dusk.  “Already?  How could that be?  Better to stay put than to try to catch up with my family on the road.” 

Actually that probably WAS a wise move.  No telling who or what he would have encountered out beyond Jerusalem’s gates—Jesus, a lone traveler.  

Where did Jesus stay for three days?  I’m thinking a kindly priest, maybe awed by Jesus’ love of scripture, his sense of purpose, and of course, that special something that set him apart already as a spokesperson for God.  Yes, a kindly priest offered his home to Jesus for sleeping and eating. Days he spent at the temple learning the finer points of scripture. It must have been glorious, for him.     

Like my trauma of losing Paige, it also ended well for Jesus’ parents.  When they discover that Jesus is missing, they return to Jerusalem, as Jesus expected them to.  They enter the temple.  They see their son sitting among the bearded elders—AS IF HE BELONGS THERE. They are too overcome with relief to be shocked by the incongruity of that image--their young son in deep conversation with men three, four times his age.

Mary says what we would expect her to say, when she is finally face-to-face with her son-- something to the effect, “Jesus, how could you do this to your father and me????!  We were worried sick!”

Tell me, wouldn’t that be exactly what YOU would say? Maybe Mary wagged a finger, too.  I would have wagged a finger at Paige, if she had been old enough to understand such a thing. As I said, this is a very human story.  That’s why I love it.   How true to motherhood, to parenthood.    

But now we come to the sticky part to this story. After Mary scolds Jesus, Jesus scolds her right back.   Scolds. That’s one way of putting it.  Some of the commentators I read this week, use the word reproach—Jesus reproaches his mother.  Really?  Did she deserve reproaching?  

I mean, forget for a moment that the boy is Jesus.  Imagine you are a mother, having just been through what Mary has gone through.  Your adolescent son is standing before you.   You say, “We were worried sick about you!”  Your adolescent son just might roll his eyes, and think if not actually say, “Gee Mom, just chill.  I’m fine. And by the way, the Temple is where you and Dad should have looked for me first.” Slightly, maybe even very rude, but typical, right?

But of course, we are not talking about any adolescent, we are talking about Jesus.

It is true though that Jesus is both human and God.  Human adolescent boys, do roll their eyes. Human adolescent boys do say words like “chill.”    It all boils down to how you conceive of Jesus—is he more God than human, or more human than God.  Tough to wrap our minds around Jesus as both human and God.   My thinking though, is that this very human story reveals the very human side of Jesus’ nature, just as it does the very human side of Mary’s nature. So Jesus reproaches his mother, maybe even rolling his eyes, and asking her to “Chill.” Adolescents!

But we are not done with our scripture passage yet. I want to return to Mary, one more time, since this is after all, Mother’s Day.

It sounds trite, but it’s true. There are moments when parents are confronted with the fact of their child’s impending independence—their adulthood.  Those moments are happy and sad both. “Gee, I really like what I am learning in computers, in math; and I’m good at it. One day I’m going to be a computer technician, a mathematician.  Or. “I really enjoy cooking, and you know what?  People like what I cook!  I think I’ll be a chef, or a dietician. Mom, I really, really like this guy I’m dating.  Can’t wait for you to meet him.” That’s you, Paul.  

So, Mary and Joseph enter the temple. They see their son, THEIR TWELVE YEAR OLD son, seated among the elders like he belongs there.  Mary scolds Jesus for staying behind in Jerusalem, but she is not just angry with him.  Her feelings are more complicated than that.  She feels relief that her son is safe, yes; she feels pride that Jesus seems to be holding his own among the temple elders in Jerusalem—“Yes; that’s my boy! “ But I suspect she also feels sad. Jesus has managed just fine all by himself, in a metropolis, away from family and away from HER.  He has discovered his calling. Yes, Mary feels a tinge of sadness, bordering on, dare I say it, grief. 

Mary treasured all those complicated, competing feelings –in her heart. As all parents do.  Yes, this IS a very human story.  Amen